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Jennifer Esposito's avatar

I have things to say, unsurprisingly.

First of all, Kristi, bless you for handling the whole experience. It is nothing less than traumatic for everyone involved. I won't get into my thoughts about who did what and why they should or shouldn't have. Everyone does what they can in any situation. I think where we go wrong is when we're so traumatized by it, we just want to forget and tell ourselves it was just a one-time occurrence that won't happen again. I know I've been guilty of this in the past. After an incident is exactly the time to start addressing the behavior and work on preventing it from happening again.

A personal story: I visited a shelter years ago, interested in adopting a dog. There weren't any that seemed suitable for my household at the time and I left. While walking back to my car, a volunteer walking a dog was heading my way. I made eye contact with her and we smiled and said hi. I looked at the dog and in that nanosecond, the dog leaped toward my face. She got me under the eye with her paw. I headed right to my car and waited until I stopped shaking and crying. Finally, I went back in and told the staff at the desk what had happened. Yes, the dog was a pit mix. No, I do not harbor any ill will toward the breed. I adore them.

FACT: Any breed can be aggressive. Period.

My pug is reactive and thankfully not aggressive. I'm working hard on her reactivity now. It is a slow process that takes an abundance of patience and consistency. I am optimistic I can work with her because I'm making the effort to see her and her reactivity from her perspective and learning to keep calm and be mindful in each situation.

@TeriLeigh, you have perfectly expressed why I stopped bringing my dogs to dog parks years ago. It's not the dogs. It's the owners. I'm so sorry you had those experiences and grateful you and your Shiba are physically okay.

For anyone who is interested in more information or perspective, I highly recommend Patricia McConnell's books, specifically The Other End of the Leash and The Education of Will, which is a story of personal trauma and recovery as well as one about her dog, Will.

I'm currently working through a reactivity video training by Spirit Dog Academy. I appreciate their methods and techniques, as well as their willingness to help, even long distance. I recommend checking them out for anyone who is interested.

And FWIW, I would have come home.

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Untrickled by Michelle Teheux's avatar

Scary all around. I have small dogs so in a worst-case scenario I’m stronger.

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